So….I’m on a grocery run a few days ago, perusing the household item aisle in preparation for our Thanksgiving meal, when I unintentionally overhear a conversation occurring between employees, one male, and about three females, that had to do with male/female romantic relationships. While there was some joviality to the conversation, it was clear (1) that there was significant intensity to the conversation and (2) the male was grossly outnumbered.
The male employee, apparently in his 30’s, was lamenting over his inability to find a “good woman”, and seemed to be asking these ladies for advice. The young ladies, one in particular who indicated she was 23 years old during the conversation, became rather aggressive with the male though rather gentlemanly and sincere, shooting down his lamentations with claims that the problem with relationships lies with “the men”. I wondered who or what had wounded her so deeply so as to cause her misdirected anger.
The woman rather loudly stated, “You can’t tell us what to do” and “Why shouldn’t I do what I want, when you gonna go out and do the same thing in three days?” With a couple of quick retorts in a rather commanding, smack-talking tone, the male was pretty much silenced.
Honestly, my heart began to ache because this exchange was a rather simple, but real-life-in-the-moment illustration of the complex, hardcore conflict that has flourished in relationships between women and men since radical feminism and the tenets of the “free-lovin’ 60’s” have invaded our society….and really since the Fall in the Garden of Eden when we lost the total complementarity and union between us due to our disobedience. Many women today are wounded and angry, and many men are emasculated, or aggressive and controlling…..and neither men nor women are able to find the complementarity, authentic love and true dignity of the human person that are unknowingly seeking. Both men and women use each other as objects in a grossly distorted effort to find “love”. Most unfortunately, the secular idea of “love” which is devoid of God serves only to wound and depersonalize the dignity of the other, never leading to the agape love we were made for.
So, in my meanderings through the store, I prayed for them and all of us who are living in this day and this time when we are seeing and understanding just what Pope Paul VI spoke about so prophetically in Humanae Vitae. We are reaping the toxic fruits of the past 50 years. How profoundly sad….
But there is hope! We are so blessed to have the writings of Blessed John Paul II and others, Sacred Scripture, and Church Tradition to assist us in understanding the totally self-donating love that we are thirsting for, to be found most purely in our creation as daughters and sons of the Most High God. We must embrace our true identity as His daughters and sons, and come to know Him so that we may love Him, and be open to and hear His loving whisper.
When I arrived home from my grocery run, I kissed my husband and thanked God for him and for our relationship rooted in the authentic love of Christ.